I am waiting for you!
Hey bloggers!
A good friend once said, God will reveal to us, who we will marry in His own timing. This is very true. Sometimes we think if we choose our own “husband” that God will change His plan to suit us. Come one…how crazy is that, He is our creator and the giver of life, don’t you think His plan is perfect?
Ok, so if you agree with this, now what? Well, it certainly doesn’t mean that you go looking for you husband. You don’t ask God “Is he my husband?” every time you meet another Christian brother. But instead, look to your Christian brothers as actual brothers. After all, they are your brothers, and if you see them as such, then you take away one important factor which can only cause confusion of ungodly. What am I talking about? Feelings!! Lust of the flesh! If look at a Christian brother, and begin to wonder if he is your husband, then you can begin to develop feelings for this person. If he is not your husband, then it’s lust of the flesh!
Whereas, if you look to your Christian brother as a brother, you will see them in a different light. You can have a completely different friendship with them. A friendship that will not be tainted with lust of the flesh. (well, there’s a higher chance that this won’t happen, if you guys see each other as brother and sister instead of husband and wife) trust me, I know. I have male friends who I have always viewed as my brother in the Lord, and I have those who I thought I could have married. My relationship with my brothers, is so much more rewarding, than that of those others.
So, when you meet a Christian brother, look to him as a brother, and befriend him like you would a brother. Value this friendship and you never know what will happen. People, we are not running out of time, God’s time is different yet perfect for us all!!
peacegirl in the single lane
How will you know?
Hey all my readers out there
Life in the single lane, is not life in the “looking” lane. Being single is a gift, and I think it’s about time more and more people realised it. When you’re single and waiting for your husband or wife, it is not the time to date lots of people in the “search” for your life partner. My dad once said “if you have a table reserved, don’t look anywhere else”. This means, if you have reserved yourself for your husband or wife, don’t look anywhere else, don’t look for someone else either.
Ok, then this questions comes up…how do you know when you have met your husband/ wife? Honestly, I don’t know…I don’t pretend to know all the answers, I really don’t…I’m still learning. I’m reading this amazing book right now, where the writer, writes about the first time she met her husband. Did she know at first sight? Actually, she was in a relationship with someone else. When you meet your husband / wife, is it love at first sight? Some people marry their best friends, and that I think, is so sweet. Your husband/wife should be your best friend, alongside Jesus.
Have I met my husband? I really don’t know…and I don’t even know who I will know when I do. Will he glow? Will he look at me with a special look in his eye? Will he be the boy next door who I’ve known my whole life? Or will he be the guy who makes me feel special the first time we meet, just by how he treats me? Or will, the first time we meet, be a time where we constantly exchange glances at each other before we actually talk to each other? Any suggestions, please comment and let me know. I’m always interested in what my readers think.
peace
girl in the single lane
Boxing up the past!
hey bloggers!
I spent 8 hours today, cleaning out my bedroom. I know 8 hours is a long time right? Well, I stumbled across a few unexpected items which opened the flood gate to old memories. I have been hurt so many times by guys, as you know, but I have to say, only two, have cut me deep. These are the two people, who a spent a lot of today thinking about. As I case across old letters, pictures and stuffed teddies from these two guys, I was tearful. I thought with David (his name for the purpose of this blog only) I have boxed up everything he ever gave me, I mean it was so long ago. I have to say, I didn’t find much, but what I did find, took me back. Took me back, thinking about the relationship that we shared, the fact that we were almost engaged, how close I was to his sister and cousin…and I look to my life right now. None of them are in my life anymore.
With this other person who hurt be recently…we should name him…how about John? That’ll work. As the betrayal was so recent, I didn’t yet, have the chance to collect everything he ever bought me, and store it away in a box. With all his stuff, I boxed everything that would make me think of him. This included everything I received at a camp I once attended, birthday cards from people at camp…and lastly, the card his mother wrote for me.
I have found myself in a habit now, of boxing up things from my past, from guys, to holidays, churches and of course, high school. I have so many boxes just full of memories, some great, some good and some not so good. But you cannot change the past, or ever think about denying its existence. The past makes you who you are today. Your values stem from your mistakes, your personality develops as you mature, you happiest memories, encourage you when you’re down. I would not be the person I am, without all of these people I have just mentioned. David thought me a lot about myself, John…I learned a lot from him too, and because of him, my guard is back up. Camp…well I learned a lot there too, I enjoyed my time there don’t get me wrong, but sometimes a difference of opinion can end friendships. Note to self…never let that happen again. Every church I’ve been too teaches my something different about God’s amazing personality, and my high school showed me what a great God I have with the friends He blessed me with.
You can box up your past literally like I do, or just box off that part of your heart and mind…especially if there’s pain involved. Put your pain in a box, and forget about it…sometimes it’s good to keep the box though. This way, you can open it years down the line, and look at what you over came. peacegirl in the single lane
Is there a man for every woman?
Hey folks!
This blog is in direct response to a few anonymous comments left on my previous entry. And to answer that question in the title: no!! Not every man and woman in the world will marry, but that doesn’t make them any less of a man or a woman. In fact people who don’t marry often have more time to dedicate to the Lord than those who are married. People who are married are obligated to spend time with their spouse obviously. On the other hand though, some people have no desire to get married and spend their life with just one other person.
Will I ever marry? I believe my God is a just God, a kind God and a caring God. Therefore I conclude that my God would not tease me by giving my heart an overwhelming desire to get married, if it was not in His will. He would not give me overwhelming desires that He will not fulfil. God will fulfil ALL the desires of your heart, the bible says. So, I believe that one, I will have the wedding I have always dreamed of. A wedding where God smiles down on myself and my husband to be, watching as we promise to have a God-centred marriage. The bible talks about how two people are better than one, I really believe that relates to marriage too.Marrige is a beautiful thing, but so is singleness. Single and waiting, is what I am, but I do not spend all my time just waiting around. I get on with life, do what needs to be done and continue to serve my Lord in any way I can. I have not put my life on hold to wait for my husband, nor do I advise that anybody does. That's just a waste of precious time!peacegirl in the single lane
wedding fever
Hey bloggers!!
Everywhere I turn people are getting together, getting engaged and getting married. In my morning church alone, there have been two weddings in the space of one month. And here I am, still single. I don’t even have a love interest, just plodding along in the single lane. It aint always easy.
I think when you have liked someone for so long, and you find out they have met someone else, it almost makes it easier to get over that person, because that way, all false hope of a future, are taken away immediately. It may sting a little when it happens, but in the long run, its best for everybody. Where am I? Well, I’m happy to say that I am over that guy who hurt me recently, in fact, I don’t hold any negative feeling toward him…can we still be friends? Time will tell. Do I have feelings for anybody right now? No…and it feels kinda good sometimes and kinda lonely sometimes, but in the end, it’s the will of God. Who am I to challenge that?
I dream of getting married one day…I’m reading this book right now: “And The Bride Wore White” which begins with the author describing the first time she met her husband and she describes the look in his eyes as she walks down the isle. When reading it, butterflies in their millions erupted in my stomach. I can only imagine what my wedding day will be like. I know it will not be for a wee while, but I’m female this is what we dream about all the time!
Peacegirl in the single lane
