single and waiting

Life in the single lane, is something most people experience at some point in their life. This is just my personal experience, that I thought I'd share with you all. Isaiah 40:31 "Those who wait for the Lord will gain new strength. They will mount up with wings like eagles. They will run and not get tired, they will walk and not become weak"

Tuesday, September 26, 2006

How will you know?


Hey all my readers out there

Life in the single lane, is not life in the “looking” lane. Being single is a gift, and I think it’s about time more and more people realised it. When you’re single and waiting for your husband or wife, it is not the time to date lots of people in the “search” for your life partner. My dad once said “if you have a table reserved, don’t look anywhere else”. This means, if you have reserved yourself for your husband or wife, don’t look anywhere else, don’t look for someone else either.

Ok, then this questions comes up…how do you know when you have met your husband/ wife? Honestly, I don’t know…I don’t pretend to know all the answers, I really don’t…I’m still learning. I’m reading this amazing book right now, where the writer, writes about the first time she met her husband. Did she know at first sight? Actually, she was in a relationship with someone else. When you meet your husband / wife, is it love at first sight? Some people marry their best friends, and that I think, is so sweet. Your husband/wife should be your best friend, alongside Jesus.

Have I met my husband? I really don’t know…and I don’t even know who I will know when I do. Will he glow? Will he look at me with a special look in his eye? Will he be the boy next door who I’ve known my whole life? Or will he be the guy who makes me feel special the first time we meet, just by how he treats me? Or will, the first time we meet, be a time where we constantly exchange glances at each other before we actually talk to each other? Any suggestions, please comment and let me know. I’m always interested in what my readers think.


peace

girl in the single lane

3 Comments:

  • At 2:22 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    One of life's mysteries I'm afraid. I think once you get to know someone really well you might have an idea but then again sometimes you dont and it comes completely out of the blue. Either way the right one will be the one God has chosen for us and it will be amazing cos God is good, very very good indeed :)

     
  • At 7:08 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Well, for me it was "like at first sight". I didn't want to jump into a relationship. We actually met online and I think that helped so much - it meant we spent the first 5 months of knowing each other just talking. Chatting about our likes and dislikes and really getting to know each other.

    We became friends before anything else and that's why we have such a deep undestanding of each other now. I don't pretend we don't fight - conflict is a sign of both passion and individuality, it's not a bad thing. But we do understand each other.

    Everyone is different, some people *hate* their partner when they first meet and end up married until their retirement years. For us, however, I think the friendship first made it easier. There was no pressure, no casual physical relationship, just two people getting to know each other.

    Now? Well it's three years later and I'm sure Jo is the girl I want to be with forever. We've spoken about it and we really do see a future in our relationship. It's her birthday in tomorrow (Thursday) and I'm taking her out for dinner. I've ordered flowers and a "bouquet of balloons" for her - I've never ordered flowers and balloons to be delivered to a girl before :) That's love huh?

    Oh and my one pearl of "wisdom" after being in a relationship for three years: be patient. Be patient now while single (enjoy the fact! being in a serious relationship is a big committment and cuts down on your alone-time at first). Be patient when you don't understand each other or have a difference of opinion - admin you're wrong once in a while as it's healthy and helps you grow as a person. And most importantly: be patient with your future! There's nothing wrong with taking it slow (even three years into it!) - as long as you both know how each other feels, take your time.

    Ahh my little 5am ramblings. Sorry, lol. I went to sleep at 9pm as I felt iffy and woke up at midnight and couldnt' sleep. Uni at 9am so I might as well stay up, lol.

    Keep it real, homie!

    Dave :)

     
  • At 1:53 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Can I chose the easy answer and say: "Whenever God reveals it to us."

    I believe its by His grace that He doesn't tell us right when we first meet them - Think of how awkward that would be. You are introduced to your 'husband' and he says 'hi' and then Holy Spirit just ignites and then you're like -'Hi! So you're who I'm going to marry'

     

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