Listen to your head vs follow your heart
Hey bloggers!!
Listening to your head can be a drag sometimes. You could really want something in your heart, but when all things considered, what you want, is not what God wants for you. Every bone in your body could be telling you yes yes yes…but, you cant bring yourself to say yes…why? Ever felt like that? I have, a few years ago back in the days of high school. I met this guy…I have spoke about him before, so look back and check out my other blogs. In brief I like him and he liked me…but nothing happened because I could not bring myself to say yes. And why? As much as I liked him, when I really thought about it, I couldn’t see a long term future for us.
At the time, I thought it was the worst thing I could do. I lost a great guy, although we remain friends…it still wasn’t the same. I look back now, and wow!! That was a lucky escape. He is happily dating someone else and they are great together, and me…I’m still living in the single lane wait for our great God to lead me.
Following your heart. My ex…man…that hurt. I followed my heart for a long time there, but when I got to know him better, things changed. What my heart wanted wasn’t enough. My heart would let him get away with hurting me all the time, and head got angry. My head hated my heart for brushing everything under the carpet, until one day…everything exploded. My head was right all along, but I was blinded by the want of my heart. I look back and thank those around me who helped me put things in to perspective…although at the time, I perhaps did not show my gratitude toward them. People always say…”you dumped him so why are you hurt?” I’ve had this for years, but still, that day broke my heart. I hurt him and couldn’t forgive myself for the pain I had caused. To my surprise he forgave me…I was then able to move on, and seek God’s forgiveness for the pain I had caused His son.
You tell me…which way is best?
peace
girl in the single lane
Listening to your head can be a drag sometimes. You could really want something in your heart, but when all things considered, what you want, is not what God wants for you. Every bone in your body could be telling you yes yes yes…but, you cant bring yourself to say yes…why? Ever felt like that? I have, a few years ago back in the days of high school. I met this guy…I have spoke about him before, so look back and check out my other blogs. In brief I like him and he liked me…but nothing happened because I could not bring myself to say yes. And why? As much as I liked him, when I really thought about it, I couldn’t see a long term future for us.
At the time, I thought it was the worst thing I could do. I lost a great guy, although we remain friends…it still wasn’t the same. I look back now, and wow!! That was a lucky escape. He is happily dating someone else and they are great together, and me…I’m still living in the single lane wait for our great God to lead me.
Following your heart. My ex…man…that hurt. I followed my heart for a long time there, but when I got to know him better, things changed. What my heart wanted wasn’t enough. My heart would let him get away with hurting me all the time, and head got angry. My head hated my heart for brushing everything under the carpet, until one day…everything exploded. My head was right all along, but I was blinded by the want of my heart. I look back and thank those around me who helped me put things in to perspective…although at the time, I perhaps did not show my gratitude toward them. People always say…”you dumped him so why are you hurt?” I’ve had this for years, but still, that day broke my heart. I hurt him and couldn’t forgive myself for the pain I had caused. To my surprise he forgave me…I was then able to move on, and seek God’s forgiveness for the pain I had caused His son.
You tell me…which way is best?
peace
girl in the single lane
posted by single and waiting @ 3:37 PM
2 Comments:
At 4:17 PM,
Anonymous said…
If only it was so simple - head vs heart. Neither is always right. The balance is never easy to see beforehead though.
What I would say, is that while I'm not a deeply religious person, I think we were given free-will for a reason. Not simply to worship Him or not, but to make our own mistakes. How else would we learn in life? When you find the perfect person for you, a lifetime of mistakes will fade away.
I can't say I'm surprised you felt bad about hurting someone - it's in your nature. You done what was right for you (and ultimately him too). That's the best you can aim for!
Go with what feels right at the time. Over-thinking anything will lead to all sorts of doubt in your choices. As long as you have good friends to help you pick yourself up after you falls, and congratulate you on your wins, you'll do just fine :)
The ever philosophical Dave :)
x
At 4:04 PM,
Portrait of Peter said…
Feelings of guilt often do play a significant part - it is our character to have such feelings.
Not everyone is the same of course, and there are those who break up from a relationship - show no feelings or care for the wounded ex.
The heart is indeed powerful when it comes to love - even more so and yet out brain tells us to slow down and to rationalise, this is often said from our parents, grandparents etc - how many times do we take on board their views???
You have learnt a valuable lesson indeed and a one which you will always remember - when meeting someone - which your heart says yes!!
Focus on your positive attributes - your love, caring and sensitivity to all things.
You may have to walk the "single-lane" a while longer - remember who guides you along that lane.
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