Waiting for the wrong guy!
Hey all you bloggers out there!
Girl in the single lane checking in…been a few days I know…but I’ve had so much on. This is one thing that’s been highlighted to me over the past few days…through the works of my sister. Clinging onto something that might never happen, is so damaging. Waiting is a good thing people, really it is, but when you are waiting for the wrong guy, you can be totally blind to the guy God is showing you. You can be totally consumed by this one guy, that you are blind to the man God is showing you, is the man for you.
My older sister…bless her, is still recovering from a hurtful break up, which happened a few months ago. I think part of her still thinks he could change, and that they could have a future together…That may be so, but she has got to bury him. Leave your past behind you and move on. If something happens in the future, let it be in God’s time. Waiting for something, that doesn’t happen, fills you up with so much false hope and what a disappointment when it doesn’t happen. We waste so much time thinking, “he could change” when God is clearly saying “He’s not for you”.
Learning to read the signs aint always easy. Sometimes we see what’s right in front of us, but don’t act on it, because we are either scared of what might happen, or we know what will happen and don’t want that to happen. Sometimes we enjoy living the way we do, and know deep down, this is not God’s plan. For example…God could tell you to get out of a relationship, you may not want to, but you know God wants you out. What do you do? LEAVE!!! Trust me! It’s the best thing you could do. I know in the back of your mind, you’ll be thinking, “I don’t want to hurt anyone”, I’ve been there, but God has bigger plans for you.
Bury your past, and move on. Don’t cling to something that may never happen, because you are setting yourself up to be hurt again. Let it go!
peace
girl in the single lane
Girl in the single lane checking in…been a few days I know…but I’ve had so much on. This is one thing that’s been highlighted to me over the past few days…through the works of my sister. Clinging onto something that might never happen, is so damaging. Waiting is a good thing people, really it is, but when you are waiting for the wrong guy, you can be totally blind to the guy God is showing you. You can be totally consumed by this one guy, that you are blind to the man God is showing you, is the man for you.
My older sister…bless her, is still recovering from a hurtful break up, which happened a few months ago. I think part of her still thinks he could change, and that they could have a future together…That may be so, but she has got to bury him. Leave your past behind you and move on. If something happens in the future, let it be in God’s time. Waiting for something, that doesn’t happen, fills you up with so much false hope and what a disappointment when it doesn’t happen. We waste so much time thinking, “he could change” when God is clearly saying “He’s not for you”.
Learning to read the signs aint always easy. Sometimes we see what’s right in front of us, but don’t act on it, because we are either scared of what might happen, or we know what will happen and don’t want that to happen. Sometimes we enjoy living the way we do, and know deep down, this is not God’s plan. For example…God could tell you to get out of a relationship, you may not want to, but you know God wants you out. What do you do? LEAVE!!! Trust me! It’s the best thing you could do. I know in the back of your mind, you’ll be thinking, “I don’t want to hurt anyone”, I’ve been there, but God has bigger plans for you.
Bury your past, and move on. Don’t cling to something that may never happen, because you are setting yourself up to be hurt again. Let it go!
peace
girl in the single lane
posted by single and waiting @ 9:39 PM
3 Comments:
At 1:08 AM,
Anonymous said…
Oh dear... where do I begin? Well I must say I think I'm the Queen of the holders-on! As I've already said in other comments bad breakup, hard, my fault etc. It is so easy to say move on, forget bout that guy, he isn't worth it, it clearly wasn't meant to be. But it SO isn't as easy as that. You cling onto this easy that its just a temporary split, he'll realise things can change, 2nd time lucky, he'll miss you, he's just angry at the moment, he'll come round... but he doesn't. Yet months later you're still sitting there thinking the same thing but you don't wanna look pathetic so you tell every1 yeah sure I'm over him. He finds someone else but you STILL think maybe there's a chance, they might split up cos he still loves me. It's emotional tortue and I guess its partly self inflicted. People tell you to go out and find someone else but DONT IF YOU'RE NOT READY! Going out does help tho - at first it feels lonely cos you're so used to having your partner with you but you get used to it. Being with friends helps. Things do change and don't be disheartened if you have relapses - it takes time, albeit a lot of time for some people and yeah you might still love that person but it doesn't mean you cant love someone else and have an amazing relationship with them :)
At 1:09 AM,
Anonymous said…
Oh dear... where do I begin? Well I must say I think I'm the Queen of the holders-on! As I've already said in other comments bad breakup, hard, my fault etc. It is so easy to say move on, forget bout that guy, he isn't worth it, it clearly wasn't meant to be. But it SO isn't as easy as that. You cling onto this idea that its just a temporary split, he'll realise things can change, 2nd time lucky, he'll miss you, he's just angry at the moment, he'll come round... but he doesn't. Yet months later you're still sitting there thinking the same thing but you don't wanna look pathetic so you tell every1 yeah sure I'm over him. He finds someone else but you STILL think maybe there's a chance, they might split up cos he still loves me. It's emotional tortue and I guess its partly self inflicted. People tell you to go out and find someone else but DONT IF YOU'RE NOT READY! Going out does help tho - at first it feels lonely cos you're so used to having your partner with you but you get used to it. Being with friends helps. Things do change and don't be disheartened if you have relapses - it takes time, albeit a lot of time for some people and yeah you might still love that person but it doesn't mean you cant love someone else and have an amazing relationship with them :)
At 4:47 PM,
Portrait of Peter said…
How often we are "waiting" we continue along a path in the hope that we can expect of others - to change and that a partnership can be formed of love and respect in unity and with God.
The pain - can often be a harsh reality - and yet it is a "wake-up" call to us all, for we have to remove the blinkers of that life and of that person - we have to walk forward for the path is our destiny to new events, meetings that God has laid out for us.
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