Married women vs Single women?

Ever feel like you don’t belong in a conversation? This is not a war between married women and single women…although it may seem that way. What am I talking about? Let me fill you in. Sometimes, I’m sure most single people have experienced this, you can be out amongst friends when those who are married lead the conversation. In doing this, they talk about married life and how exciting and fun it can be. This can do two things: it can make you think about what you have to look forward to, or it can make you feel isolated.

This happened to me recently, which is why I’m writing this. I don’t think married people deliberately push the conversation into marriage talk, which in turn, pushes single people out. As least I hope they don’t. In fact, I think it’s important that married women share stories with each other, as shared advice can educate a newly wed. Single women should share stories too for reassurance that they are all in the same boat seeking the same thing: God’s perfect husband for us.

Can married women and single women talk together? Well…I don’t know the answer to that question, because in my experience, married people tend to lead the discussions or couple activities. By this I mean activities where married women team up with their husbands, and the single women, are paired off with anyone else. When there is a group of married women, and you’re the only single women, my advice…leave the room! You will only feel really small and excluded from the conversation, and no-body should be made to feel this way.

I don’t know all the answers, but this I do know. Single women struggle, particularly as they get older, with the concept of singleness and begin to doubt if they will ever get married. People talking about the joys of married life around them, does not make this nay easier at all. Married people, consider the feelings of those single around you.

peace

girl in the single lane