think before you act

Hey all you bloggers out there!

Last week, I asked for help on finishing my last entry, because I didn’t know how to end it. Partly because this situation it still kind of on-going and therefore has not come to a natural end, making it difficult to predict how it will end. After a comment from a good friend, I realized a few things. Firstly people, if you think you like a fellow believer, then that’s cool! But if every time you approach this person to talk to them or whatever, you think about how lovely he is (to look at) and how much you like him, then yeh, of course nerves could get the better of you. But…if you like a brother/sister in the Lord, then start treating them as such. These butterflies might not go away straight away, but that’s ok. You’ll learn to control them, instead of them controlling you. If you think “he’s my brother” your feelings might not end, but that’s ok too. Treat him like a brother though, and show him how sisterly you can be. This is a great foundation for a solid friendship in Christ.

Secondly, if you get to know someone because you think “he’s the one” and he meets someone else…what is the foundation for your friendship with him? Chances are, if your friendship is based on “maybe’s” then, the friendship could come to a sudden end. Sadly this does happen, I’ve been there myself, and it’s not pleasant. Lastly, something that another good friend said to me this week, which made me see things and I completely different way. If you like someone, and start a relationship with him, without seeking God, this could be disastrous. If you both believe in yourselves that God wants to get married some day, and enter a relationship without seeking God, what do you think the outcome will be? Say you guys break up, and you discover that this wasn’t what God wanted for either of you, but that He has someone special for both of you…do you know what you have just done? Not only have you added another name to your list of ex’s and people who have a piece of your heart, but you have just been involved with someone else’s husband. Yeh that’s right you heard me. If God’s plan is for you BOTH to get married, to other people, then he is not your husband, but someone else’s. So please, for the sake of you fellow brothers and sisters, don’t enter into a relationship lightly and please please seek God’s guidance first. Girls, put yourself in this Jeans shoes:

You meet a great guy and think he could be the one. So you automatically ask him (Bob) out. Before you realize it, things move a little fast for both of you, and things don’t seem to be going so well anymore. Why you ask yourself? I don’t understand, you said to him repeatedly. Things come to a sudden end, and your friendship with Bob is over. Your heart breaks. Five years later, Jean meets Bob at a Christian event. They start to get to know each other as siblings in Christ. A year later, God reveals to Bob, that Jean is to be his bride. Jean and Bob spend a long night talking about past relationship. Jean doesn’t have much to say, as she has never dated anyone…sadly this is not the same for Bob. Bob begins to tell Jean about you…her heart breaks. She was so hurt that she had waited for him, and he had been with someone else, she didn’t understand why this could happen. Bob cries as he seeks Jean’s forgiveness…this feels like the longest night for Bob.

Think about it

peace

girl in the single lane