I love being single

Hey all you bloggers out there!

How are you all doing? As I grow closer to reaching the end of the book I’m currently reading, more and more comes to light. For the first time in, what seems like ages, I am actually really happy being single.

I have only ever let four guys into my heart, and every single one of them hurt…and for me, the last one hurt more than the first one. Does that seem right? Most people think when you get hurt for the first time, you never forget that pain, but in all honestly, I disagree. I have forgotten that pain and still remember the pain John left me feeling. I think it leaves me feeling annoyed too, that I could allow myself to make the same mistake twice, you know?

So, only four eh? Still more than one though isn’t it? Out of these four, how many of them still own a piece of my heart? Actually, only one, and that would be David. Why is this, I hear you asking? I think for two reasons, this is the case. He and I were close to engagement, so obviously we both put ourselves really out there. We poured our heart and souls into this relationship and for what? That was one expensive lesson. I do not have feelings for this guy anymore, but I do still care about him and pray about him. However, I have not spoken to him in almost a year and nine months, to the day (the 7th of Nov). Why you may ask? Ask away people, ask away.

However, with these other three guys, we have been able to seek forgiveness from each other and build a long lasting friendship. We have been able to overcome any barriers that could hinder a godly relationship with each other and can now call on each out for advice and support. I value all of them and their friendships. It amazes me, that after al the pain and agony I caused them, they can forgive me and still maintain a friendship with me. What a witness is that?

I’ve learned to realise that singleness is not about waiting for marriage, it’s about growing more in love with the Lord. When you grow in God, you become more like Him right? And if you think about the characteristics that you look for in you husband or wife…do they sound familiar? They should. You probably want someone who is caring, tender, sensitive, loving and who thinks you are special, am I right? Who do you know who is all of these and so much more? Yeah, you got it, He is our Father in Heaven. How amazing is that?

So, grow in God and ask Him to help you do this, and let me tell you, He will answer you. Not only that, you will love Him so much more and will not be able to stop smiling all day. When you grow more Christ-like, remember this is God preparing you for marriage. You’re looking for Prince charming, but remember Prince charming is looking for his princess too.

peace

girl in the single